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So what do you really want out of life and how do you get it?
I am always surprised at the amount of people I come across that when asked the simple question "So what do you want?" they have absolutely no idea at all. They usually come out with a very abstract answer like "I just want to be happy" or " I want to make more money" Unfortunately, this type of answer is not good enough to drive you to your success so I thought I would write a few lines about how you get what what you want because it is very simple. The sad thing is that most people are very dissatisfied with their lives but don't actually know how to do anything about it.
There are a few simple steps to help you get more out of life.
1. KNOW WHAT YOU WANT
This might sound very simple but have you ever actually sat down and worked out exactly what it is you want? When was the last time you took time out for you to decide what you want to do with your future? I suggest that you stop doing it just before mid night on New Years eve and do it now. Get a pen and paper and go somewhere quiet and start to scribble down all the things that you want to achieve in your life. Don't limit your self to the things you want either, this is time for you to dream and write down all the things you have always dreamed of doing.
Now take a moment to put them in to categories of A, B and C with A being the most important ones for you, B being the second most important ones and C being the least important ones. Look at the ones you have labeled as A's and take the one that is most important to you. We will work with this one for now.
2. WHY DO YOU WANT IT
If you don't know why you want something you will not go very far. You must write down all the reasons why you want this thing, and again don't hold back. Write down the real reasons why you must achieve it. You will find that once you have discovered the real why, the how will be easy to find.
3. CREATE A BURNING DESIRE
It is critical that you turn whatever you want into an absolute burning desire. By this I mean that that you MUST do it no matter what. It should become an absolute obsession and that you think about it every single day until you get what ever it is you want. There are many ways of doing this but let's just start with something called auto suggestion. What I mean by this is you must verbalize out loud what it is you want, but say it like you really mean it with true passion and feelings. You should repeat this over and over at least 3 times a day. Once when you rise, again at lunch time and again before going to bed at night.
You can even get pictures of what it is you want and put them everywhere where you will see it on a daily basis. This will help remind you what you want and keep you focused on it. Spend time each day thinking of it and remember to say out loud what it is you want to achieve. It also helps if you write it down and read it out loud. Something strange happens when you write your goals down and verbalize it. Do this for a minimum of 30 days and see what happens.
4. CREATE A PLAN OF ACTION
This next step is vital in achieving what you want. You must take the time to actually write down how you are going to get what you want. The first time may just be a load of jumbled ideas that don't make much sense but that is OK, the important thing is that you start to write your plan of action down. Keep on scribbling until you have all your ideas down. Once you have done that you can start to put it into some sort of logical order.
"If you are failing to plan, you are planning to fail."
When you are drafting out your clear defined plans it is important that you have a completion date on it. There is no point in just stating that you want to achieve something without putting a date on it. If you fail to do this, it will become a moving target. And be specific with the date and time, don't just say next year... It needs to be something like "It is the 22nd February 2012 and I have achieved...."
5. TAKE ACTION
This is where most people fall down, they don't actually do anything that they have planned to do. There is a great video out there called "The Secret" which I love and highly recommend but it fails to tell you about this so important factor called ACTION. You must take action and do something to move you closer to your goals.
Ask your self a question every day and write it down in your diary. "What am I doing today that will get me closer to my goals?" Don't get caught up in the habit of procrastination. Take action now and do something for you. If your why is big enough you should have no problem in this area. If you find your self not really motivated to take action, you need to take a look at the reason why you want it.
6. CHECK YOUR RESULTS
It is so important that you take stock of the results you are getting on a regular basis, maybe once a month ask your self what you have done, what did you do good, what did you do bad and more important, how can you do it better? Always remember that you are human and you will make mistakes but there is no such thing as failure unless you quit. You will get many results from your actions and some of them may not be the results you wanted or expected. This is why it is important to look at the results you are getting and see how you can do things better in the future. They say that the definition of madness is doing the same thing over and over expecting to get a different result. If you keep on getting the wrong result then follow the next step.
7. CHANGE YOUR APPROACH
This is simple, if you are not getting the results you want then change your approach. Do not keep doing the same old things and expect to get a different result. Thomas Edison knew that he wanted to invent the light bulb and tried over 9,000 times to do it. Some people say that he failed over 9,000 times but he said that he didn't fail, he simply found over 9,000 ways of NOT making a light bulb. Out of these 9,000 experiments he also discovered more interesting things by keeping track of his results. Read 0 Comments... >> |